A marriage can be ruined by many kinds of secrets. In the first part of the series, I will be covering financial secrets. Keeping financial secrets can be a sign of or cause significant problems within a marriage, according to author and radio host, Dave Ramsey.
A lack of communication and cooperation in a marriage is the case whether or not a spouse is keeping small items a secret or accumulating a $50,000 credit card debt. It seems that often financial secrets in a marriage occur because one partner feels that they have no control of their finances and they spend money specifically to "rebel". Another type of common financial secret is when one spouse gives money to the kids without informing the other spouse. It's more likely to happen in blended families, "when a divorced parent wants to 'protect' his or her own child from the new 'evil stepmother' or stepfather, and part of the way he or she does that is by handing out money".
Solving the problem of why you are keeping financial secrets is the first step to marriage recovery. You must understand your motivations in order to reveal what is really causing this behavior to occur. Discussing the mistake with your spouse is important. The honesty will help you clear your mind and allow the healing process to begin.
If you're not ready to reveal your secret to your partner, revealing it online anonymously is at least a start. You must be able to own up to it yourself in order to come to terms with the issue. The next big step is to admit your mistake to your partner.
Ultimately, it will be up to you to decide whether or not to reveal your secret, but being able to admit it to yourself will be liberating and cause healing to begin. Dig deeply into yourself to find the answers and you will not be disappointed. Revealing oneself shines the light on the truth.
This in turn leads to living a life of happiness and peace.
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